Posts Tagged ‘Listening’
Monday, February 6th, 2012
As the old joke goes, a man carrying a violin case in Manhattan gets stopped by a couple of tourists who ask him how to get to Carnegie Hall. The violinist responds, “Practice.”
So obvious, it’s funny–no one gets to Carnegie Hall without a ton of practice. It is usually the most ‘talented’ performers who practice most diligently. The talent onstage in Carnegie Hall is, as much as anything, a talent for practicing. A love of the hard work and focus that it takes to master one’s craft.
Rob McNamara writes in Integral Life about ‘The Necessity of Practice.’ Practice, notes McNamara, is preparation. What we are seeing and hearing onstage at Carnegie Hall is a performance informed by preparation. It is the preparation that elevates and defines the quality of the performance.
Everyone has a Carnegie Hall, a place or ideal they’re trying to get to. A vision for the future. And then, quite often, something happens. We get sidetracked. Distracted. Too busy to practice. We stop off at the Carnegie DELI and call it Carnegie HALL. Our ego tells us we have arrived. That’s when the unproductive patterns–sameness, repetition, redundancy, stagnation, smugness—set in. That’s the point where our performances become cyclical, begin to repeat themselves, and our audiences get bored, and begin wondering why they paid their money.
McNamara defines the act of practicing as ‘Engagement.’ The GameChangers Orchestral Model™ identifies six practices that generate productive outcomes in the world. Engagement is one of the six. The other five are:
Heeding (listening, paying attention, observing actively). In the Orchestral Model™, this practice precedes Engagement. As the social media doyenne, Sally Falkow, (@sallyfalkow) says, “You don’t go right up to people having a conversation at a party or social event and just start talking. First you have to hear what conversation is about, and then can you be part of it, and engage with people in a meaningful way.”
Learning. What is revealed to you as a result of your interactions with others, and with your environment? How does your network inform you? How do you turn learning into solutions? All this takes practice.
Creating. How does what you do make a difference? How does it make you unique? How do channel creativity toward innovation?
Performing. What are your criteria? What is your Carnegie Hall? Is it a seven or eight digit number? A place? A whale of a client? A standard you have set for yourself, or that others have set for you? How does your performance differentiate you?
Deciding. How consistent are you? What values do you represent? How clear and shareable are your decisions? What themes are important to you? Who and what influences your behaviors? If your deciding practices are weak, Big Trouble soon come.
Performing and Deciding are what we call the core practices. If you are not good at these–if you don’t have a clear vision of where you’re going, or if you are indecisive and wishy-washy along the way—the rest of the practices will not matter, because you’ll be too busy zig-zagging toward a mirage, rendering meaningless decisions in service of illusory goals.
So call the whole thing Engagement, yes, definitely! Practice it! Be engaged! Be present! Pay attention! Notice! That’s a good first step. Then refine your practices into the six different areas of the Orchestral Model™, like an athlete working on muscle groups or a musician working through different progressions.
And when call comes from Carnegie Hall, you’ll be ready.
Tags: Carnegie Hall, Core Practices, Creating, Decieding, GameChangers, Heeding, integral Life, Learning, Listening, Performance, Performing, Practice, Preparation, Rob McNamara, Sally Falkow, Social Media, The Orchestral Model
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Monday, January 23rd, 2012
I take improv classes when I can, always from top-flight teachers. It helps me keep my edge by putting my performance under scrutiny and review that’s much more intense than what you or I experience in a workplace environment. And it keeps me in a learning mode. You’ve probably never heard the name of my current teacher, Miles Stroth, but Miles is a legend in the improv community. He has influenced the art of improvisation as a performer and teacher, performed thousands of shows, taught thousands of students and changed the way they play the game.
I was struggling with my scenes in this week’s class, then had a little breakthrough in the last scene I did (we do dozens of scenes per class). The difference came about when I began by listening instead of thinking.
“Listen, then think,” says Miles. “Don’t try to make sense of the situation. Interact with it by listening.”
Here’s what happens when you think first instead of listening first:
You begin having a conversation about what’s in your head instead of about what’s in the scene. And because neither your scene partner(s) nor your audience can hear what’s in your head, you’re having a conversation with yourself, which distances you from the scene instead of engaging in it. You’re having a conversation with yourself.
Here’s what happens when you listen before thinking:
You can use your intellect to serve the scene (by doing something smart that propels the scene and makes your partner look good) instead of letting your intellect use you (“I am the smartest person in the room and here’s proof”). You’re having a conversation with reality.
Thinking is the ego talking; Listening is the world talking.
Listen. Then Think. That is the order of the opportunity in any scene you’re in.
Tags: Ego, Improv Comedy, Intellect, Issues, Listening, Miles Stroth, opportunity, Thinking
Posted in Coaching, Communication, Dialogue, Entrances, Focus, Fundamentals, Games, Initiations, Listening, Relationships, Scenes | 1 Comment »
Wednesday, July 7th, 2010
It’s easy enough to see that in a selling scene, a Customer is your Audience. You, in your role as Seller (and make no mistake about it, everyone in this world sells something) need the customer/audience to support you at the boxoffice, the gift shop, the showroom, the supermarket, the website, or anywhere else you can translate their ‘applause’ into revenue. This has been true since studly village smithies were putting on a good show by hammering out horseshoes under the spreading chestnut tree. A good performance gets rewarded by the audience. Selling doesn’t get any simpler than this.
It does, however, get a lot more complex, and in a hurry. Here’s why:
In selling scenes, the customer plays two roles: Audience and Scene Partner. You, as a seller, co-create your selling scene with your customer as your scene partner. He or she will then, stepping into the role of your audience, pass judgment on your performance. Thumbs up or thumbs down? Worth the price of admission or not? Good collaboration or rocky relationship? Will you generate positive word of mouth or negative reviews? Your earnings depend on how your performance is received.
There’s no script for these scenes–at least not one your customer is going to be memorizing and reciting verbatim anytime soon. You’re going to be improvising. And this is a fact: The best salespeople are the best improvisers.
Here are some ways in which good salespeople collaborate with customers on scenes that get a thumbs-up from those same customers:
They keep their scenes lively. They keep the dialogue moving along at a productive tempo. They yes-and promptly. They heighten by upping the tempo, the emotional pitch, or both. They add useful information. They perform with the awareness that a ‘dead spot’ in the scene now will be judged harshly by the customer-as-audience later.
They make their customer the hero of the scene. An improvisational salesperson is a Sherpa to the customer with some kind of allegorical mountain to climb. The sales Sherpa has useful knowledge. Charts a practical course to the summit. Reads the weather. Calculates the odds. Comes well-equipped. The sales Sherpa gives the gift of support, and in doing so, makes the customer look good. The role of the sales Sherpa is not the same as playing a second-banana, a sidekick, a best friend, a wing man, a femme fatale or a fall guy. These are Hollywood movie roles. The sales Sherpa is exactly what the name defines: a Sherpa. It’s a Himalayan thing.
They listen. Wow, do improvisers listen. They hear things the casual listener doesn’t. They remember the nuances, and use the throw-aways. They know that the most important conversation of the day may happen on an elevator ride between the first and sixth floors before a sales presentation begins. They listen with more than their ears. They observe with all the senses. And then, maybe then…they speak. They understand that being silent and being mute are two completely different things, and that sometimes one sees more with one’s eyes closed than with them open.
They respect environment. In selling scenes, you, the seller, are usually a visiting performer in someone else’s theater. In many ways, the ‘theater’ of a customer’s company is like any other theater. Theaters have traditions and history that must be respected. They are influenced by politics and patronage and star players with competing agendas. They are invariably facing some kind of financial threat. They are only as good as their last hit, and they have ridiculously high hopes for the next project. They can be half-looney with romantic intrigue. The improvisational salesperson sees and respects the arena in which the customer operates. When performing at the Apollo, touch the Tree of Hope. When visiting Ireland, kiss the Blarney Stone.
They build relationships. Relationships are the basis of all improvisation. The relationships between players, between players and environment, and between players and audience, are all intertwined. The best way to move toward a sale, to generate positive outcomes regardless of the circumstances, is to build and nurture these relationships. Relationships will see you through the kinds of adversity, and capitalize on the opportunities, that no scripted sales program can predict or anticipate.
In selling scenes, the networked customer is a more potent player than ever. He or she often knows as much about your product as you do. Relationships with customers are frequently more sensitive, more fluid and more demanding than they were in the Industrial Age. Customers use social media to converse frequently amongst themselves in scenes to which you, the seller, are not invited. You can no longer impose your narrative on the customer, you’ve got to earn an invitation to participate in the customer’s narrative.
So be a Sherpa. Know the mountain, and your customer will see that the climb is impossible without you.
Tags: collaboration, Customer, Dual Roles, Environment, GameChangers, Industrial Age, Listening, Mountain, Networked World, Performance, Relationships, Sales, Scene Partner, Scripting, Selling Scenes, Sherpa
Posted in Additions and Edits, Agreement Principle, Dialogue, Emotion, Environment, Gifts, Listening, Narrative, Networked World, Relationships, Sales, Scenes, Speed | 2 Comments »
Friday, May 7th, 2010
A few years ago, I was asked by a network executive to videotape interviews with the alumnae of The Mary Tyler Moore Show, including Betty White. Even though the show had been off the air for many years, Mary was still the star, and acted the part. I, however, only had eyes for Betty. Then, as now, she lit up the room with those smiling eyes of hers, and the sincere attention she gave to everyone and everything. With Betty White what you get is not a role, not a portrayal of a character, it is real, it is true character.
After we finished our interview, I got to tell Betty the one thing I really wanted to tell her, how my mom, Fern Bonifer, back in Ireland, Indiana, was a huge fan, and had been since the days when Betty would guest star on the game show, Password, which was hosted by Betty’s husband, Allan Ludden. Then, on pure impulse, I asked Betty if she’d mind calling Fern on my phone and saying hello. This was a no-no for someone doing my job, a line you did not cross, and I knew it. I was like a kitchen worker taking a seat at the dinner table. But all I could think about was how happy Fern would be to get a phone call from Betty White. “Of course I will” Betty said.
Fern was not home. Damn. The call went to voice mail. Betty didn’t miss a beat. “Fern, this is Betty White,” she said. “I’m standing here with a handsome young man who claims to be your son, and he tells me you’re a Password fan. That is so sweet of you. We had so much fun on that show, didn’t we?…” It was as if she and Fern were old friends who hadn’t seen each other in ages.
A couple of days later, I got a call from an executive at the network, who told me how displeased she was that I’d asked Betty to call Fern. I could not have cared less, and I’m sure Betty wouldn’t have cared, either. The sound of my mom’s voice when she called to tell me about the voice mail from her friend, Betty, was worth a thousand network paychecks.
I imagine that Betty White’s life has been a series of encounters just like this one, in which she has given the gift of herself, and treated her fans as her equals, her partners in a neverending collaboration (“We had fun, didn’t we?”) This is why she is still young and her world is still unfolding at the age of 90.

3 AM, French Lick (Indiana) Casino
I see this same spirit in my mother, who, at the age of 84, still lives on the farm in Indiana, quilts, bowls, gambles, sings in the choir, gardens, cooks amazing meals, and can drink with the young folks at the Shamrock Pub in Ireland until closing time.
Happy Mother’s Day, Mother! Break a leg, Betty! We love you both!
Tags: Age, Allen Ludden, Betty White, Character, Conversation, Dialogue, Fern Bonifer, Listening, Love, Mother's Day, Password, Roles, Saturday Night Live, Scenes
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Thursday, April 16th, 2009
A part of my work with the World Wildlife Fund for its Earth Hour event in Los Angeles on March 28, I helped organize a group of young musicians to perform at the event. My guitar teacher, Lonnie ‘Meganut’ Marshall, put together a group of kids who played drums on recycled plastic buckets they’d painted to fit the theme ‘Funeral for Fossil Fuel’.

The Life Drum Core, as Lonnie named the group, was a big hit. They got coverage on all the local TV stations, and on the night of Earth Hour, their four-minute performance was well-received. They ended up afterward jamming with the mayor, who grabbed his own recycled bucket and began banging out a beat. (He wasn’t bad.) (more…)
Tags: Additions, Earth Hour, Environment, Fundamentals, Life Drum Core, Listening, Lonnie Marshall, Pete Carroll, Status, USC
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Monday, March 9th, 2009
Deep Patel, and the company he founded GoGreenSolar, prove that adding information is one sure way to heighten scenes and improve performance.
In 2005, while getting his Masters Degree in Business Finance at Boston University, Patel discovered that information about solar power and equipment was not easy for potential users to come by. He launched GoGreenSolar solely with the intention of providing useful information to his audience. When the audience for this information grew, he added an e-commerce component. By the time he got his graduate degree he was one of the solar industry’s most authoritative voices and had developed a brand that will sell over a million dollars of solar equipment online in 2009.
Patel is quick to point out that he launched GoGreenSolar.com with a) no intention of selling anything on the site; and b) with full commitment to educating the market (and himself) about solar.
Deep Patel’s number one obligation to his brand (and the move that he ties most closely to its success in the marketplace) is to add information. “I blog seven days a week,” he says. “No matter what.”
An ‘Adding Information Strategy’ like this produces all kinds of positive outcomes.
It keeps the brand customer-focused. There’s no better way to keep an audience engaged in your performance than telling them something they didn’t know.
It’s low-overhead. Adding information costs less than just about anything else you can boost a brand’s performance in the marketplace.
Adding information also keeps the brand narrative fresh. It is an evergreen move. The currency of the information added, a relatively easy standard to achieve in a fast-growing industry like solar, ensures that the brand is ‘alive’ in the minds of its audience.
It expresses confidence. In an emerging field like solar energy, there’s naturally a lot of uncertainty and ignorance in the marketplace that can be exploited by ‘first in’ players. Because its strategy is one of educating, not hyping, its, GoGreenSolar stays ‘manufacturer agnostic’, which makes the voice of the brand credible. This credibility translates into customer confidence in what is being sold on the site.
It demonstrates the importance of conversations. Deep talks to a lot of people, inside and outside his industry. Those conversations bring perspective and insight to the information he adds. Who is saying something (and where and when and why) are every bit as important as what is being said.
Conversations require good listening. Listening yields suggestions from the audience that can be woven into the brand’s themes.
Adding information creates context. That’s huge. By adding information, Patel dimensionalizes the products on GoGreenSolar, until they are more than products, they are essential elements in a larger brand narrative. In the Networked World where content is ubiquitous, context is king. It is our ability to make sense of information, to add emotional and meta meaning to cosmetic data, to find patterns in the complex tapestries of life and the marketplace, that set our brands apart and distinguish us as communicators and as human beings.

Tags: Adding Information, Boston University, Branding, Context, Deep Patel, GoGreenSolar, King, Listening, Manufacturers, Priorities, Relationship, Suggestions From the Audience
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Sunday, March 1st, 2009
As the toxic cloud of the Bush-Cheney era in America begins to lift, we are beginning to see the scope of the mess they’ve left us in. The boys from Delta House have been partying hard for eight years, and now we’re supposed to move in and live here like nothing has happened? The party is over the the place is a disaster. The trees are filled with underwear! The toilets have exploded! And nobody’s laughing, because it’s real, and it’s on us to clean it up.

Some of the clean-up work is so vast in scope, the banking industry shitstorm that shows so sign of abating , for example, or our crippling dependence on fossil fuels, that nothing short of a federal government strategy can begin to dig us out of it.
Every one of us, however, can find ways to support the clean-up work on a personal and practical level. Cleaning house presents us with opportunities. A chance to evaluate inventory, and eliminate waste. It can be the impetus for a much-needed remodeling.
Here’s a GameChangers checklist for what to Toss and what to Keep as we clean up and remodel an economy that has been Skulled and Boned into the pathetic shape it’s in today: (more…)
Tags: Authority, Boss, Cosmetic transactions, Decider, Dogma, Emotional transactions, Faith, Flexibility, Games, Housecleaning, Keep, Listening, Outcomes, Possessions, Preaching, Results, Status, Teamwork, Toss
Posted in Emotion, Entrepreneurship, Environment, Games, Innovation, Issues, Listening, Narrative, Networked World | 1 Comment »
Monday, January 26th, 2009

One thing I always notice when I’m in a scene with Mark Johnson–the founder and President of JiffyGas and HConverters, complementary brands in the business of converting internal combustion engines to run on alt energy (hydrogen, nat gas, biofuels)–is how observant he is. He notices everything. When you’re speaking, he watches your hands, he glances at your feet, he looks you in the eye, he focuses on your thoughts even as they’re still taking shape in your mind. When he speaks, he speaks with much more than the words coming out of his mouth. Mark Johnson’s kind of communicating transcends spoken language. Yes, words communicate, but only on the Cosmetic level. It’s what accompanies those words on the Emotional and Meta levels that has the power to change the game.

When Mark visited Los Angeles last month, and I got to watch Edwin and Armando, the whiz-bang mechanics he’d flown in from Colombia, convert a six-year-old Lexus to run on hydrogen, spoken language was maybe the least effective communications tool they used during the two days it took to do the conversion. There were four languages being spoken in that shop in Alhambra–English, Spanish, Chinese, and Italian if you count the Italian narration on a DVD promo for the converter kit that Edwin ran for us on one of his computers. Sure, some spoken language was required. But what made the scene go–what got the team on the same page–in improvisation terms, what created the Group Mind–were the elements of communication that transcended words. Here’s where Johnson’s genius as a communicator was clearly in evidence. (more…)
Tags: Alhambra, Alt, Alternative Fuels, Armando, Cars, Communication, Conversion, Cosmetic, Edwin, Emotion, Emotional, Energy, HConverters, Humor, JiffyGas, Listening, Mark Johnson, Meta, Transportation, U.S.
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Wednesday, January 21st, 2009
(This is a version of a piece I wrote for the Huffington Post early in 2008. The context is even more appropriate today than it was then.)
Barack Obama is an improviser. His campaign, his platform, his history, draws on a spirit kindled in the same Chicago South Side neighborhoods where modern improv was born in the 1930s.
How does Barack Obama improvise?
He says “Yes and…” Like any good improviser, President Obama understands that agreement enables a scene to progress, and new, shared realities to emerge from it. “I know that the hardening of lines, the embrace of fundamentalism and tribe, dooms us all,” he writes in the preface to Dreams From My Father. As an improviser, Obama understands that erasing the lines that divide us–enabling “Your situation” and “My situation” to become “Our situation” is what makes any kind of progress possible. (more…)
Tags: Agreement, Agreement Principle, Barack Obama, Bush, Character, Cheney, Ensemble, Huffington Post, Improviser, Inauguration, Integrity, Listen, Listener, Listening, Theme
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Tuesday, December 2nd, 2008
Our November GameChanger of the Month selection was a slam dunk. Barack Obama is going to be America’s first baller president, and he’s going to be its first Improviser-in-Chief.
His and his team’s ability to improvise their way to an election victory against rivals who were, initially, much better funded, more networked and more familiar brand names proved beyond any doubt how skillful improvisation can change the game. Obama is the epitome of what it means to be a gamechanger. (more…)
Tags: Barack Obama, Chicago, Economy, Follow the Follower, GameChanger of the Month, Hyde Park, Improvisation, Inauguration, Innovation, Lincoln, Listening, McCain, November 2008, Palin
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